Conflicts come up between people of all ages and at any stage of life. It does not matter if you are in recovery or not. Conflict resolution is key to feeling healthy in recovery for people with addiction. The best way to deal with a conflict is to prevent it from happening to start with. It is important to keep an open mind, listen to what others say, and understand their perspective. Find a way to cope with conflict in a healthy way and seek support for challenges that may arise.
When people are vulnerable, they let their guard down. No matter how evolved people think they are, their survival instinct kicks in and they want to flee for their lives. Our instincts are to run away from what may cause us harm. This reaction can mean either attacking other people or avoiding confrontation altogether. The vulnerability can be expressed in several ways, including by showing feelings, voicing regret, and apologizing. In most cases, involving long-standing, caring, and respectful relationships, vulnerability is needed and offered in return.
An instinctive reaction in conflict is to blame the other person and say it is not your fault. You don’t have to feel bad about yourself, even if you were wrong. Just accept what you did and rise above the issue so you can move forward away from the conflict.
Talk is truly cheap, unfortunately. The final key is to resolve conflict in a way where you put actions to your words and respond in a way that is not harmful to the other person. The best way to diffuse conflict is to take action that signals you want to settle the conflict and repair damage that may be done.
When you are in addiction recovery, it is a constant struggle to work on yourself. You are stretching your own beliefs about what is possible in every scenario. When you show vulnerability, accountability, and responsively, you demonstrate strength, confidence, and lack of selfishness. Working on these ideals can support your journey of healing. You may be able to focus on conflict resolution more when you are supported and cared for throughout recovery. The goal is not to hurt the other person, even if they hurt you. The goal is to find a way around the hurts, to get past them, so you can find a way to move forward in recovery.
A Step in the Right Direction provides quality care for clients seeking support for addiction recovery. We teach people how to live a sober life through programs, therapeutic support, and evidence-based therapies. Our recovery program is staffed by people who understand the power of addiction. For more information on sober living programs for men and women as well as recovery programs, call (877) 377-3702